I recently read about a study that states that most married couples kiss less than once a week and that this kiss lasts less than 5 seconds. To me, that is crazy.
Now my husband and I are not the most romantic people by any stretch of the imagination. Our first anniversary was spent buying a new stove or dryer (can't remember which one, that is how memorable it was...) because we had just moved into our house. We tend to be practical in the extreme. We generally don't spend money on gifts for Valentine's Day or Sweetest's Day (an American Greetings Holiday here in Ohio, designed to pick up lagging card sales in October for those who aren't familiar with it...) because I generally refuse to participate in a holiday that exploits the very relationships that are supposed to be most important to people all to perpetuate a materialistic ideology that is so pervasive throughout our society today. (Read: We're too cheap.) Hell, on our honeymoon our truck broke down and we ended up having to spend money from the wedding cards to have it towed and repaired. That was an interesting start to married life...but I digress.
I am disclosing the above to illustrate the fact that while we are very much NOT traditionally romantic people, I simply could not fathom NOT kissing my husband every day. We kiss at least twice a day. He kisses me ever morning before he leaves for work (and I debated whether to include this kiss because technically I am not fully functioning and sometimes not even aware of it...though I will say that he does have my full consent to do this). We also kiss every night before we go to sleep. That is our minimum for a day, and usually only if we don't see each other all day. We kiss every time one of us leaves the house. We will kiss when we pass each other in the living room or kitchen.
Same thing goes for telling each other "I love you". Every phone call ends this way. Every morning my husband tells me this (again, debatable if it counts because of my non-conscious state...). Every night before we fall asleep this is the last thing I hear from him. And countless times in between.
Some will say that by kissing so often and by saying those three words so often, we are rendering them meaningless. I would disagree. Physical affection is important to a marriage. If I am going to have to have sex with the same person for the rest of my life (though there are those who say you don't have to do this, I am not going there...), you better believe that I am going to have lots of it as well as lots of physical touching. If I am going to have to be with a man that I will see at both his very best and his very worst, I am damned sure going to affirm every single fucking day that I love him. It is a reminder for me and for him as much as it is meaningful.
So do we do roses and candlelight and satin sheets? Nope. Do we kiss and fuck and laugh and encourage each other a lot more than most people I know? Yep. You better believe that I am going to brag about this. After all that we have gone through together in our short 7 years of being married...from the truck on the honeymoon, to my dad dying, to our son, to me going through school....we survived it. And if we did this by not being traditionally romantic...I will take it.