I've got all kinds of excuses. Two jobs. Three children who consistently demand things like nutrition, healthcare, and education. (Assholes.) A house that, let's face it, is not going to be as clean as I would like it until we move out of it and into another bigger one we can trash. Just maybe a little more spread out will the trashing be. (And Yoda I am channeling.) And of course, I'm constantly looking for new things to
Ha ha. I can't even find time to read a goddamned book. Or even a fucking short story or poem. A marathon is totally out of the question. I'm lucky to find time to exercise at all (as evidenced by all of the weight I have gained back...:/ ) Everything just keeps getting pushed off to the future. When I have only one job. When the kids are in school full time. When we finally move out to the country.
Everything seems like it has been getting postponed lately. I wanted to have a bigger house for Elizabeth's grad party. She graduates this June, and we are still in the same house. I wanted to start running again. I still have not gone out to buy new running shoes. I wanted to have Alexis take violin lessons. Her violin has not been touched in forever. I signed Charlie up for 1,000 books before kindergarden. She's probably read that many already, but we don't get to the library to turn her papers in. Hell, I've been wanting to go on a date with my husband. It's been way too long.
I feel like I have been such a failure in so many ways. I judge myself way more harshly than anyone else. The perfectionism that I lecture my clients about runs rampant in myself, and I always seem to be slacking.
But yet...our house feels like home and Elizabeth is having fun planning her graduation party with me. Alexis has found her true love in dance. Charlie is as smart as a whip. My husband puts up with my crazy. It just never feels like I am doing enough.
Not pretty enough. Not skinny enough. Not smart enough. Not enough money. Not taking the kids to enough activities. Not spending enough quality time with them. Not spending enough time on my career. Not spending enough time on housework. On reading. On hobbies. On exercise, fitness, and/or health. On beauty. On pop culture. On learning about social media.
When does it become enough? When you are too old to remember? When you die? When you wake up one day and realize that all the voices that were on the outside, or so you thought, were really coming from within, but with help from external sources? When you realize perfection is an unrealistic standard sold by marketing companies to promote products for the almighty dollar?
I know most of that logically. Yet I can understand why most people don't feel it in their hearts. I tell people, "Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday." But you can't rationalize with anxiety (believe me, I've tried.)
I just have to hope that it is enough. And keep contributing to the children's therapy funds in case it is not.