Now, I am sure that it comes as no surprise that I tend to lean liberal. Waaaay liberal. As in, there's no leaning and I've already fallen over the wall into the water headfirst. (For the record, not the wall that Trump wants to build 😉) I am not one to argue much with people, as I tend surprisingly to be conflict adverse and a bit of a people pleaser. It compliments my paranoia, anxiety, and the wall I've built up quite well. (Again...not THE wall. Apparently built by Schrodinger's immigrant...)
That being said...I need to get out some of my thoughts on words. Someone told my daughter, "Trump isn't that bad. It's just words he said."
Tell that to the grown men who sit in my office sobbing and tell me about how their mother used to scream at them that she wishes she hates them and wishes they were never born.`
Tell that to the woman who is trying to make sense of her relationship, when one minute her partner is calling her the love of his life and the next is giving her a fat lip.
Tell that to the child who was just threatened by his molester that if he/she tells, their perpetrator will hurt their family, or they will be responsible for breaking up the family, or that no one will believe him/her.
Tell that to the people who impeached Bill Clinton, for lying under oath.
Extreme examples? OK, then. Tell that to the women who are cat called walking down the street. How do they know if those remarks were just "locker room talk" or if there is serious intent behind them?
Tell that to the three year old who innocently drops the F-bomb in front of your boss. It's just words, right? No need for correction here!
Tell that to the news reporter who gets in trouble for not using the word "alleged".
Tell that to the professors of the over-stressed college student who plagiarized a paper.
Just words, right?
The point is, words matter. Trying to pretend otherwise is either foolhardy or an expression of privilege. And when the words are coming from someone in a position of power, they matter a great deal. Especially when those words tend to be backed up by actions. Tweet much?
Look. I'm no politician. I do not have the fortitude for it (despite my ongoing campaign on Facebook to be YOUR elected official, which I win by a landslide every election as 100% of zero votes is zero votes). I do not have the knowledge of foreign affairs, the intricacies of government, or the ability to bite my tongue or moderate my words. Though apparently that is no longer a requirement for the top office of this nation. Ahem.
It's not a matter of being a special snowflake. (Admit it though, I totally am...) It's not a matter of needing a "safe space" or being a crybaby. It is a matter of the impact of words, and how they are used by people in power. Both to uplift people and to break them down. Gaslighting is powerful, sometimes more so than sincere positive affirmations. And I am very afraid that the American public is being gaslighted.
I do not condone the sometimes violent rhetoric and actions that are being used against our current president. I have written before about the violence that is so prevalent in our society. I also do not condone those who want protesters to stop being "crybabies because your candidate did not win", or whatever variation of that you want to toss in there. It is a protected right to peaceably assemble, as is the right to vote and bear arms. Why should it matter what those protesters say?
It's just words.
And therein lies the problem Schrodinger's words. Simultaneously meaningless and unimportant and an affront to a peaceful transition of power.