I am trying to wrap my mind around the whole idea of wearing scarves as accessories. I just don't get it. Who came up with the brilliant idea to put some fabric around your neck so you can pretend to be strangled every day? Plus, that shit is usually all flowy and whatnot, so it is all free flowing and moving and, in my opinion, really really annoying. Like dangly earrings. I don't want that shit pulling at my earlobes every time I whip my head around because I have caught Charlie trying to hog tie her sisters again.
I have never been much for accessorizing, though. I have one purse. I wear the same jewelry every day (and ironically, for someone who does not wear much jewelry, 3/4 of it is stuff my husband has bought me...my wedding ring, the anniversary band, and the mother's ring. The fourth piece is my necklace that I have for my son.) I do have a bit of a shoe thing going on, but even then I am more likely to buy shoes for my kids than for myself. Hell, let's face it...most days my job is lucky that I show up clothed, including pants, and looking at least a step above a hobo living behind Aldi's in the dumpster. To try to pick out jewelry, a purse, a belt, AND shoes? That is simply too high of an expectation for me. Sorry not sorry.
(And sorry again for that last sentence. I just always wanted to use it and never got the chance, so I took this one and not only embraced it, I french kissed it and dry humped its leg.)
Elizabeth always manages to look put together. She does her hair all cute and always has a nice, classy outfit on that is appropriately accessorized. She clearly was able to figure that shit out on her own because she sure as hell got zero guidance from me with that. I'm hoping she passes that down to her sisters too, cause otherwise people might mistake us for a band of miscreants and throw rotten tomatoes at us. And by God, we could be COMPOSTING those tomatoes!
My hope for the little girls as adults is that when they go out in public with me, people will smile at all of us and say to themselves, "What lovely children to take their obviously senile mother on an outing!" My inability to accessorize has its perks, because really I have set the bar so low that when I am old, people won't be like "Oh remember when she was so put together?" Instead, they will all be like "Holy fuck, she finally went completely crazy!" I want to be the old lady who wears her bathrobe and slippers to the gynecologist because one may as well be comfy, amiright? I also don't want my children to have to go through mountains of accessories when they stick me in a home, on top of all of the other shit I will have accumulated and the other concerns they might have, like finding my sex toys or dead bodies in the walls. It's really just one less thing for them to worry about.
See? My lack of fashion sense is actually me caring deeply for my children. And that, bitchez, is how a therapist helps reframe irrational cognitions to be more helpful. Except it's not usually that delusional. And honestly, that's not really an irrational thought. And it's more a rationalization than an appropriate reframe.
Sorry not sorry.