It is absolutely crazy, at this point in my life, to even contemplate getting one of these.
Yet I have. And do. Quite frequently.
It has always been a personal goal for me. I certainly don't *need* it to do my job. I have no desire to teach, because that would be disastrous most likely as, despite having a Master's degree in education, I am decidedly NOT an educator. I bow down to educators, in fact, and would like to gift all of you a virtual bottle of wine. Virtual, in that my husband has still refused to show me where he keeps all the money I married him for, and because I am trying to start a small business and this last month I *just* cleared enough to cover rent for the office and that's it. Yay me!
Research would be fun, but again that might involve teaching college courses. Though I suppose if all I had to do was lecture, that might not be too bad. As opposed to being responsible for the development of the minds of the future generation. At least by 18, they already know how to read and shit, and both on the toilet even.
Most of my clients call me Doctor, anyways, so it would be nice to be able to stop correcting them. Plus, I would for sure grow in my clinical skills, and supervision would be a possibility as well (long and complicated topic, but basically helping to train the next generation of therapists). But again...it's not something I *need*, but more something I want.
And therein lies the crux. I feel as though, despite having a higher degree than anyone in my immediate family currently does, that I am still not good enough. That I still have not proven myself, that I am a failure because I got knocked up at 16, then graduated high school a year early with only a 4.2 GPA because I could not get straight A's while raising an infant and going to high school and I lost an entire year to bring it up, then graduated college with only a 3.5 GPA because college doesn't give 5 point A's and I had to work 40 hours a week to support my kid because my dumb ass refused to get cash assistance, then took 3 years off from higher education after my bachelor's because I got married and moved me and my daughter 45 minutes away from family, then got my Master's while being pregnant multiple times, giving birth once to a live child, and losing my son and multiple other pregnancies. I don't have those three letters after my name, so all of that is meaningless.
What. The. Fuck.
Why do I feel this constant drive to prove myself? I've been doing it for years. Most people would look at all of that and be like, "wow". I look at that for other people and I go "wow." I look at that for me, and go "what the fuck is wrong with you that you haven't gotten your Ph. D. yet?"
I frequently confront clients with their thinking errors. I often ask them what the would say to a friend who is going through what they are, then ask "what makes you so special that this does not apply to you? That what you would say to literally every other person on the planet, you would not say to yourself?" This usually elicits a smile (though, full disclosure, one time this backfired on me spectacularly...) and gets them thinking.
So, self...what makes you so special that this does not apply to you? That what you would say to literally every other person on the planet, you would not say to yourself?
Physician, heal thyself.
And wait for the fucking Ph. D. until you are at least only working one job.
